Here at noteworthy*, we believe in good manners. We don’t want to be stuffy or over-formal. We just want to use common sense and thoughtfulness in our dealings with others. To us, the basis of etiquette is just that; doing the right thing and being considerate. We help guide our customers through all kinds of stationery situations, from wording on wedding invitations to how to address correspondence, with good manners in mind. We know that the world of social correspondence is constantly changing. We keep up to date so our customers always get the the best, most personalized stationery that reflects their lives and personal style. Now more than ever, stationery has an amazing impact. It’s not a quick shout-out on a social network, a text or quick call_ it shows the sender took time and care.
wedding invitation etiquette
We love weddings. At noteworthy*, we’ve worked to make beautiful paper goods for all kinds of different celebrations that suit the style of the event and the personalities of the celebrating couples. We love taking the stress and guesswork out of wedding invitations. We pride ourselves on providing our brides- and grooms-to-be with the perfect paper products and the know-how we’ve accumulated on the job. One of the chief benefits of working with a fine stationer like noteworthy* is that we help guide our couples through the ettiquette, timing, and possible pitfalls of everything from save-the-dates to wedding programs. Here are a few ways we help our couples avoid an etiquette faux-paux and rule out logistical headaches.
Wedding invitations can have a lot of traditions attached to them. We want your wedding stationery to be as unique as you are. We specialize in helping our couples navigate wedding etiquette to make the right choices for them. Traditional wording just wouldn’t feel right on a recycled paper postcard invitation for a picnic wedding in a meadow whereas an invitation with formal wording would be perfect for traditional wedding. The most important thing to remember is wedding invitations tell your guests what the expect at your celebration.
Even couples who do not use traditional wording on their invitations can benefit from learning about it to avoid communicating unintended information. Here is an annotated traditional invitation:
Mr. and Mrs. Angus Chillingham (host line)
request the honor of your presence (request line)
at the marriage of their daughter (shows the relationship of the hosts to the bride)
Tessa Marie (bride’s full first and middle names)
Mr. Harold Hamish Bolts (groom’s full name)
Sunday, the seventh of October
Two thousand and twelve
at six o’clock
3827 Lomita Lane
Traditional wedding invitations begin with a host line. The host line is often the parents of the bride or the party paying for the wedding. This allows guests to properly thank their hosts.
Noteworthy* can help couples select the right wording when couples give their own weddings, when both sets of parents contribute to the wedding, when parents are divorced or deceased, when the hosts hold titles like doctor or minister, and any of the many other permutations of the host line for modern families.
The last thing a busy bride wants is to find that the invitations to her wedding were not delivered, delayed, or stamped with a “Postage Due” stamp that requires her guests to pay to pick up their invitations.
We recommend that every couple take one full set of their invitations_ envelope, invitation, enclosure cards, stamped response envelope, everything_ to the post office where the invitations will be mailed. The post office can ensure that your invitations get the correct postage for their size and weight. Whether you choose to purchase stamps for your invitations at the post office or to order custom stamps that coordinate with your invitations, you can rest easy knowing that they will arrive safely.
Most couples know that sending out wedding invitations too late causes problems for guests, caterers, and the happy couple. Experience tells us that sending out invitations too early causes RSVP headaches. Many guests will open a wedding invitation, see that the wedding is months and months away, and shelve their response to do later or even forget to respond altogether.
We recommend mailing invitations six to eight weeks before the wedding date. Save-the dates should be sent 3-8 months before the wedding date. Save-the-dates are optional but a great courtesy to guests. If the wedding date falls on or near a holiday or during the summer a save-the-date helps guests to plan ahead and keep their calendars clear. Destination weddings or weddings where many of the guests live far away often benefit from save-the-dates to help guests plan ahead. We always advise our couples not to mail save-the-dates or invitations during the month of December, as mail is more likely to be lost this time of year.
Many couples choose to register for gifts and many wedding guests will ask about gift registries. It is not considered appropriate to include gift registry information on the invitation because it implies that gifts are expected. Word-of-mouth is often the best way to spread registry information. The mothers of the bride and the groom, the maid of honor and bridesmaids should be asked to help with spreading the word. Wedding websites are also a convenient and polite place notify guests of registries.
Because stationery is a person’s tangible representation of themselves, we take great care in helping our customers send the right message. Noteworthy* specializes in matching design to message with professional stationery and business cards, personal stationery, birth announcements, event invitations, and thank you notes.
Have more questions? We invite you to stop by our shop at 101 s. Higgins Ave. in Missoula or contact us online, for any stationery situation.